May 9th 2021-Pastor Jeff Souders

“The fool who provokes his family to anger and resentment will finally have nothing left.

Prov. 11:29

“Conflict is inevitable, but combat is not”

Anatomy of an Argument

• Phase 1: Recognition – “We have a problem”
• Phase 2: Reaction – “I’m upset about it!”
• Phase 3: Resolution – “What can we do about it?”

1. We must admit we are angry

“Stop lying to each other; tell the truth . . . when we lie to each other we are hurting ourselves. If you are angry, don’t sin by nursing your grudge.”

Eph. 4;25-26

2. Ask Jesus to help us understand why we are angry

“A man’s wisdom gives him patience”

Pr. 19:11

Why am I angry?

3. I must ask Jesus to help me deal with anger in the now

4. Ask Jesus to help you control your anger

“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.”

Prov. 29:11

“Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.”

James 1:19

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Pr. 15:1

“Do not use harmful words in talking. Use only helpful words, the kind that build up and provide What is needed”

Ephesians 4:29

Rules for fighting fair:

• Never compare
• Never condemn
• Never challenge
• Never condescend
• Never Contradict
• Never confuse

GET ADVICE FROM GODLY COUNCIL

“Conceited people do not like to be corrected. They never ask for advice from those who are wiser.”

Pr. 15:32